- Acceptance of one's life has nothing to do with resignation; it does not mean running away from the struggle. On the contrary, it means accepting it as it comes, with all the handicaps of heredity, of suffering, of psychological complexes and injustices.
- At the heart of personality is the need to feel a sense of being lovable without having to qualify for that acceptance.
The first is a self acceptance of what life throws at you. It comes from with-in. I'm glad to have found this because I think that I have struggled with acceptance of circumstances that I don't want or like as being a form of resignation. I was thinking of that a lot yesterday when my devotional reading had the quote "It is as it is". The devotion was talking about dealing with unexpected and nasty things life throws at us. When negative thoughts about the unwanted life event come the writer suggested repeating "it is what it is" and then with God's help moving on, but he also stressed that acceptance and resignation are not one and the same. He went on to say yesterday is history and it can not be rewritten. By praying "it is what it is" the author suggests our heart can be opened to tomorrow's hope. So from Paul Tournier and the devotion I learn acceptance does not equal resignation, but that acceptance can lead to hope.
The second Tournier quote deals with an acceptance that comes to us from outside sources. The feeling of being lovable without having to do something to qualify for that love. The I'm OK. It is true we need to accept, love, and be OK with ourselves; but equally it is important to be accepted by another outside of our self. That acceptance is I think critical to who we are and who we become. I think Paul Tournier would agree.